This morning at work I shared a blog post from Daryl Kinney, an upper level rider who trains with Denny Emerson. I don’t know Daryl personally, but her online presence makes her seem so workmanlike and humble, not to mention a damn good rider, so I think we’d get along pretty well. Her blog post was about bravery, here’s a link.
She starts by saying that she’s not brave to which I’m like ???. If she’s not brave, what does that make me?
“Personally, I find that my bravery stems from being educated and prepared. I have also found that the more experience I get, the more brave I become. Also, the more technical skills I acquire, the more confident I am that I can do the job I need to do.”
This to me was a yaasss moment. I wouldn’t consider myself very brave on the spectrum of average horse people. I found bravery with Justin thanks to years of repeated practice, but I still get absurdly nervous leaving the startbox, even when we dropped down to do a Novice.
Her post really resonated with me. Everything you do with horses is baby steps. You introduce training concepts slowly to make sure they completely understand the basics. It’s the same for confidence. We don’t have to suddenly be brave enough to run around Rolex, but trying to do something that makes you a little nervous every once in a while will start to add up. Her post was a good reminder that by slowly edging out of your comfort zone you can create your own bravery.
“Just because you are not as brave as you want to be, does not mean you won’t get there. If you are willing to be honest with yourself and figure out what makes you nervous, or figure out what specifically makes you confident, then you can work to cultivate your own bravery. Don’t ever think you could never do something that you really want to do, just because the idea of it makes you nervous right now. You can set small goals and with the right help and motivation, eventually you get where you want to go.”